I’ve been thinking about the rape culture in our country. We all know the blame is usually placed on the victims rather than the perpetrators of the crime; and we have a tendency to charge women to prevent rape from happening to them.
Now, I’m all about women being in charge of their own destiny. I support a woman knowing that if someone tries to rape her that it’s not her fault regardless of whether she put herself in a vulnerable situation. A woman should also know that if someone attempts to rape her, she has every right to destroy that bastard; and she doesn’t necessarily need to rely on pepper-spray, guns, or another man to destroy that would-be-rapist. But that’s not how we charge women to protect themselves. We tell them not to go out alone at night, not to get apartments on the first floor or leave their windows open, to watch what they wear, what they say, wear they go, etc. And this isn’t empowering women; it’s repressing us.
Let’s take the example of “don’t go out alone at night.” Now before you argue that it’s common sense for women to travel in packs, let’s remember we never make that argument for men. Why? Because men don’t generally get raped walking alone at night. Except that women don’t generally get raped walking alone at night either. While it does happen, 66-90% of women are raped by people they know and sometimes trust.