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Why Men Love Bitches: A Review
Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dream Girl - A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own In A Relationship by Sherry Argov
Let me say from the beginning: too much attention is paid to this book’s title and not enough to its subtitle. The term “bitch” here doesn’t mean a demanding, inconsiderate diva but a self-assured, sassy, vibrant woman. Being a “bitch” in this sense, is a good thing, a very good thing indeed.
Sherry Agov’s book on modern dating reads like cocktails with your best friend. Argov tells us everything we don’t want to hear about ourselves.
“She is on-call like a rookie flight attendant” she says of the doormat, the girl we’re all trying to avoid being. The doormat, however, is no one-dimensional patsy but someone we’ve all been. Trust me on this one.
When this book was recommended to me, I scoffed outright like a bratty child. “I’m a strong, independent woman. I write for a feminist zine. I don’t need this book. I’m not pathetic. I’m not that girl.” But Argov let me in on a secret: we’re all that girl from time to time. We’re all the doormat because we all sell ourselves short from time to time.
This book is less about dating than it is about empowerment. Her main lesson is this: Live your life, give yourself some credit, and the right men will come your way. However, there’s a plethora of applicable tips on each page that will have you guffawing your way through the stigma of shame associated with dating books.
—By Lauren Osborn, Vagina Prose+Poetry Editor
*This review was featured in Vagina’s Winter 2011, now on sale for $2!
P.S. All submissions for Vagina’s Spring 2012 issue are due by Sunday, April 22 at 11:59pm CST. Send us your goods, ladies!
